First comes a wedding - then comes a marriage!
They are two entirely different worlds!
Marriage is the easiest hardest relationship you’ll ever enter. It’s the most rewarding exhausting experience of your life. It captures the best and worst of your memories.
Fortunately, my hubby and I aren’t often in the same bad place at the same time, but it does happen from time to time. We see life from different perspectives.
Generally, I see the cup half full and he sees it half empty. I need the bed made every morning to feel a sense of order to my day. He figures we’re getting back in tonight, why make it. I like to put everything away, he likes it all out in the open so he knows where it is. When I take a shower, I hang the bathmat back on the hook, even if he’s getting in right after me. (That sounds OCD to me, even as I read it.)
We even look at trimming the garden from two different perspectives. A cute little pair of clippers works for me. Clip - clip - clip and all offending branches or vines are gone. When he trims bushes, Vroom - Vroom - Vroom and out comes the power equipment. In the blink of an eye that bush is reduced to a stump with roots. It looks like it was taken to the barber for an old fashioned flat top haircut.
However, we both sleep in our bed, we both eventually find what we’re looking for, we both shower, and we both don’t know a thing about gardening! But together we get the jobs done.
It’s all a matter of perspective.
When differences arise - and they always do - even after 48 years, we try to see the bigger picture. We try, not always successfully, to not win the battle and lose the war. There are always going to be differences, you came from two different worlds, with different families, budgets, traditions, and cultures.
Try to keep God’s perspectives - “Let nothing be done through selfish ambition or conceit, but in lowliness of mind let each esteem others better than himself.” Phil. 2:3